Tailgating 101


Image result for tamuc footballHey yall,

The first day of class has crept up on us all and with football season staring us in the face I figured I’d give tips, advice, and a guide on what to expect.

“What should I wear?”

What to expect:

  1. Tailgating is the time right before the game starts that gets everyone ready for and lit for the game.
  2. Most people wear comfortable clothes because tailgate usually last about four hours (don’t arrive on time) and then the game is of course four to five hours. So wear something you can move around in and still look cute/handsome.
  3. Bring sunglasses; because the sun can get real disrespectful.
  4. Bring some drank. Because why not? (21+)
  5. Shoes you don’t mind getting dusty or possibly messed up. You’ll  more than likely be in the grass so don’t wear something you can’t get stains off of. 


I’ve prepared a couple of looks with the help of the gentleman of Be Humble. You have a few options but honestly it really just depends on how fly you are trying to be.


now this style is very basic and casual but it will style catch a few eyes from the ladies.

Shout out to my beautiful Be Humble sister Angie, she attends Sam Houston State University.

A simple school spirit shirt from your universities bookstore, a pair of your favorite shorts joggers or cut off sweats (if you are opting for the cut offs please make sure they look presentable) and a pair of casual sneakers. 

The next look will make you stand out a bit more. This look can be changed to fit any schools colors you’ll just need to buy a jersey that has your schools colors.


Shout out to our Be Humble family at University of Louisiana at Lafayette.

Black ripped shorts or jeans, a jersey featuring your schools colors, a nice chain and a pair of sneakers will complete this look.

The next look is for when the weather gets colder but you still want to be put together.


This look is inspired by my illustrious University; Texas A&M University- Commerce.

Another shirt from your universities bookstore (get long sleeves so that you can be warm at the game!) Black ripped jeans, an army green jacket for warm and fashion reasons and of course a gold watch to give the look a touch of bling. Now you can choose which shoes best suit your personal style. We suggest shoes that you don’t mind getting a little dusty due to the tailgate being in the grass.

The style is an unconventional outfit that still allows you to rep your school and have spirit.


We paired the black ripped jeans with a white t-shirt underneath a plaid button down to incorporate layers making this a perfect look for that chilly fall nights at the game. We opted for the trendy Vans because almost everyone has a pair or something similar in their closet. #OnaBudget Also don’t forget a hat! This is perfect for when you didn’t get a haircut and need to hide that edge up. Be Humble stay looking out.

For those attend HBCUs we didn’t forget about you! This is another casual look.


Ripped jeans, a university Sweatshirt and some fly kicks is all you need to achieve this look.


first look, casual look


A pair of tights (please be sure they are not see through sis), a white cami or t-shirt, jean jacket and a hat that has your schools emblem or name on it. This can be paired with thigh high boots in fall, sneakers or even sandals.

second look, warm casual look


This look has ripped jeans, a pair of cute booties, long-sleeved school shirt and a nice simple watch & bracelet set. Add a jacket to keep warm during cold games.

third look, super cute yet casual


this look was adapted from our very on Be Humble Blogger Meagan.

ripped jeans, white halter top and sandals work perfectly with this look. Add sunglasses and a cute lip gloss and you’re good.  

This look screams fineee yet comfortable.


The key to any tailgate and gate outfit is comfort. Pair your favorite off-shoulder top (we suggest your schools colors), ripped jeans and a nice watch set. Now the woman in the photo has on heels but we suggest a nice strapped sandal. 

fifth look, dressy but not too much


a cute off shoulder dress with, sandals and a choker that represents your schools colors.



New School, Old Concepts

New School, Old Concepts.



Backstory : As I end my 3rd year run working in orientation as an undergrad I desire to give some advice to first time in college students. Even more specifically first time in college students of color.

Post : It’s time to own it. You’ve made it through the practice round, although it didn’t feel like practice. You shot and you scored and now it’s time to show college what you’re made of.

1.       You CAN do it. You’ve faced obstacles so far that could have held you back, but they haven’t. You may have had to take on responsibilities younger than most, but you’ve handled them like a grown up. You made the grades to get in, now all you must do is persevere, which you know how to do oh so well. Are the rough times over? Not at all, they are just beginning. This may be frightening, but in hindsight after all you’ve been through you will make it through this too. All the people who said you couldn’t are about to eat their words.

2.       Little Black boy, little Black girl you are special, you are valued. This world has many ugly sides, but you are made of unwavering strength, solitude, and years of over-came struggles. This college life is for you too. No matter what your neighborhood looks like, no matter the affects the world has tried to force upon you. You too will inherit the earth. As you stride through a world filled with hate, injustice, and racism know that you are the changing force that will create a new world. You will inspire the next generation by simply being you. You will inspire your moms , dads, siblings, cousins to soar.

3.       Study; study those books. You know the price, now pay it. You never had to study in high school right ? I know you’re smart, but it’s time to maximize your experience, and increase your knowledge. Prepare yourself for every test, educational or not. Learn through life, learn through the mistakes of others. There is nothing more dangerous, and safe in this world than knowledge.

4.       Read These Books

a.       The Souls of Black Folk – W.E.B Dubois

b.       Their Eyes were Watching God – Zora H. Hurston

c.       Invisible Man – Ralph Ellison

d.       Up from Slavery – Booker T. Washington

e.       Kindred Another Country – Octavia Butler

f.        I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings – Maya Angelou

g.       Uncle Tom’s Children – Richard Wright

h.       Assata – Assata Shakur

5.       Take CARE of SELF : Learn to love yourself in ways this world could never could. Take time to pray, reflect, meditate. Your wellness is so importance. This doesn’t just mean physical wellness ( although super important ) take steps to make sure your mental wellness is taken care of as well. You are the ruler of your kingdom, the world is truly your oyster, but you must be able to experience it.

6.       You’re not alone. There’s many students out there just like you. Nervous of what the world has to offer, nervous that they won’t be enough. Nervous that they just can’t do it. Find strength in the fact that many before, and many after you have felt the same feelings. Make friends, have fun, study hard. These are the first years of the rest of your life. What you do now will set the tone for your future. Take it seriously, love yourself, do what you know you need to do.

·       These are the tips I wish I had known.

Living long and prosper.


_ Ralph St.Vincent Bradley


Student, Intellectual, Black AF, Artist, Negus, Political Enthusiast

Work Work Don’t Stop

The lyrics “werk werk don’t stop” come to mind when I think about the realities of life after graduation. 

As I woke up last Monday to start my last semester as a student teacher it hit me that after December (when I graduate) I’ll basically have to work the rest of my life (until retirement); or be homeless. 

Gone are the days we just work on campus as a residential assistant, tour guide or in the student center. It’s time to boss up and get into a career and/ or continue our education. Joining organizations on campus and striving to get on the executive board is now coming to an end. It’s time to use what we’ve learned to be as successful as possible. 

I’ve gathered together some tips that helped me get my life. Hopefully you find some truths and apply them as well. 

1. Everyone will reach this point. 

I know you’ll miss your homeboys, homegirls , and all those “Thristy Thursdays” but soon all the people you’re cool with will graduate too. And to be real there are clubs, lounges and get together that will soon replace those overheated/ overpacked parties we love.  Everyone is in the same boat. Vent to your friends!

2. Get active on the Weekends!

I love to sleep in just like the next person on weekends but sometimes you need to get out. Plan brunch dates, fun day activities with your friends or even a wine down #InsecureHBO. It’ll help you feel the freedom you have and not dread Monday mornings when you have to return to work. Concerts, road trips ,and game nights are some suggestions. 

3. Indudule on independence. 

Change your mindset from “dang I gotta get my black a** up for work” to “well let me chase this check while I use my degree to practice my craft each day this week.” You can finally afford more than a dorm room with a stranger less than ten feet away from you. You have the freedom to move to a new city, dive into the career you always wanted ,and meet new people. Budget your money and use your new found independence to ease into true adulthood. 

Here’s a scripture that may push you too: Proverbs 14:23  

As always Be Humble, tell me when you think in the comments.

#insecureHBO #bossUp #Work 

Journal Confessions by Whitney

I hated myself. That was the cold, harsh, and lonely reality of it all. The tragedy of this hate is that I did not realize that I hated myself. I knew that because I was overweight, I needed to work on shedding some pounds. I knew that I did not like my nose, I wished it was a tad smaller. I knew that my natural hair had seemed to be stuck at my shoulder for the past year. But, it never crossed my mind that I could subconsciously hate myself. That is, until my most recent relationship ended and I was tasked with doing the emotional work of wondering how in the hell did I end up heartbroken with only a pair of Uggs to show for all my time and effort.

In my relationships I was the giver. If there was something that my man needed or wanted, and I had the capacity to fulfill that desire, then he may as well have considered it done. For a long time I equated being submissive to what it took to earn a mans love. Disney had convinced me of this wild fairy tale ending. I had the idea that all I needed to do was look really pretty, be able to fit my foot in the shoe, and BOOM, I would be well on my way to being married with three children.

This, I have found is not the reality and I have paid a steep price for such beliefs. Lets go on a little journey:

My mom and dad divorced while I was still in pre-k. Prior to the relationship’s end, I was a bonafide daddy’s girl. I would  wait up at night for him to come home from work, wouldn’t rest until I saw his face. I wanted to go wherever it was that he went. I was his shadow and he was my idol. So, imagine the gaping hole that his unexpected departure left in my heart when he left the family we had, moved to another state, and began a life with another woman and child the two of them had created. Of course, it would be years before I found out the real reason behind my parent’s divorce but that did not lessen the blow. If anything, when I discovered the truth, it hurt even worse. I felt rejected, and I felt replaced. This was and still is the first heartbreak that I have ever experienced. It was a bond, a connection, that was torn at the seams and I was left, at about five years old, to figure out how to put the pieces back together.

Needless to say, its no wonder today that I have issues with my self-esteem and confidence. By no means am I using something that happened when I was five as an excuse for my own inability to see my greatness. However, what I am saying is that it undoubtedly had a detrimental effect on my psyche and my development as someone who would  grow up to be a woman. In a perfect world, a woman’s father is the first person who begins to build up her confidence. In my world, that opportunity was pretty much missed and I had to figure out exactly what my place was in this world.

If self-love and self-worth and confidence were a test, I would have failed a million times up until now. God has recently closed the door on my relationship. I thought this was the man that I would marry. He was attractive, he attended church on Sundays, and he was focused. He was everything that I thought I wanted– I had placed him on a mental pedestal before I even began to get to know him. So I pursued him. That was my first mistake. I had placed this man on a pedestal without knowing anything about his character and I thought that I should work to change myself to get his attention. From the moment that I pursued him, until we got until a relationship, until he told me that he no longer wanted to be with me, I pursued him. I had something to prove. This had to work. He had to love me the way that I loved him. We had to be married by 25 so that I would be able to have his children by 27 because I wasn’t trying to have kids all up in my 30s. And we had to move to the same place after college because long distance just was not going to work. And despite how he aggravated my insecurities it still had to work. Despite the times that my feelings were ignored or made insignificant. Oh, remember that time when…?


After we broke up, that is exactly what I had to do. I was forced to stop. I was forced to look. I was torn up that he no longer wanted to be with me. I had the gumption to even be shocked– even though I had just prayed and cried to Jesus to take away anything that was not in His Will for me (lol, no take backs sis). I was even more upset when I had to cry some more and reject his offer of friendship. Knowing that my rejection would certainly be the end of our entire relationship– friendship and all. I turned our relationship inside out in my mind wondering where *I* had gone wrong. What it was that I had done or did not do. While there were some things that I could have undoubtedly done better, I had to accept that I could have done everything “right” and this still would have been the end result. Because some things and people are only for a season and we must have the discernment to know when the seasons are changing.

If you are reading this and you are going through a break up, in an unhealthy relationship, or just unhappy period I want to remind you that your first responsibility is to yourself. I know that it sounds selfish but I have paid the price of loving others more than myself. I have allowed myself to be belittled, sometimes manipulated, disrespected, and undervalued. Though this post stems from my most recent breakup, these themes have occurred in relationships from the past as well. This is not an insult to the man’s character, but rather a testament to what can transpire if we are not diligent of ourselves. This is not me telling you to leave your man if you are happy and he treats you with the utmost respect and care. But this is for my sis’s who struggle with self-love and boundaries.

The most important thing that we can ever do for ourselves is to learn to love ALL of who we are and where we are. 

If you are someone who is a giver, a people pleaser, someone who feels that they have to make people love them then I implore you to ask yourself why. Why do you give your full self to people who can only offer you half? Why do you stay in spaces where you no longer fit? Why do you value other’s above yourself? These are some of the questions that I have had to ask myself since my relationship has ended. The answers are not always pretty, but it has been in the answers that I have found my truth. The truth is, I am enough, I do not need anyone to love me, like me, marry me, befriend me or any of the sort. I love me, I like who I am, and though I am very uncomfortable, I love where I am too. No one likes to admit that they are not as mentally strong as they pretend, but we may can lie to other people, but we cannot lie to ourselves. Your life is a reflection of what is on the inside of you.

Many people think of death as something that is final. They say that whenever someone dies, another person is born. I am thankful for my relationship’s death. In its death, the old me died, and has allowed for the birthing of my best, authentic, self.

With much self-love,

Whitney ❤

 I was vegan for 42 hours…

Hey yall,

As some of you may or may not know Netflix has a new documentary named “What The Health?”

This documentary basically outlines:

-how health organizations have been lying about what is actually healthy and conducive for our health.

-how companies who butcher and sell poultry actually treat the environment and animals.

-how to be vegan/plant based  and why it is so much better for you… not for me though. 🗣They had me messed up. 

So after watching the documentary I naturally didn’t want any more meat or animal products (milk , cheese, eggs, ice cream, allat).

I had my parents watching the documentary also so we all decided we were going to switch to a Plant Based Diet.

So here’s how I was a vegan for 2 and a half days: 

Saturday dinner: I had eaten heavy earlier that day so I didn’t need to eat again after watching the movie.

Sunday breakfast: I had two mixed berry protein granola bars. I was in church feeling empowered until Sister Clark announced the “Praise in the Park” event and listed the meats the deacons would be grilling. 

Lunch : me and my family driving around the Dallas Metroplex trying to find a place to eat that was vegan… I ended up eating air, water  another granola bar. I was sitting in the backseat asking the Lord to fill my stomach with the spirit. 

Dinner: black bean tacos (flour tortillas, black beans, salsa, corn and onions) If I rate the dinner on a scale of 1/10 I’d give this meal a 6. 

Monday breakfast: a granola bar and an apple (my typical breakfast is non meat anyway)

lunch: pineapples, crackers and an apple

Dinner: I made black bean burgers (black beans, various seasons, bell peppers, onion, garlic etc.) I give this meal a 5/10 the texture and after taste was very disrespectful. Also, my mom tried it and immediately grabbed a frozen pizza out the oven. Here’s a video of my trying the burger. ​

​About two hours after dinner:

-I had blue bell and it was great! Until my stomach started bubbling. I didn’t care though because it was tasty. 

The next day I went to work and let my coworkers know I wasn’t doing the plant-based diet anymore and they welcomed me back into meat by buying me a HUGE hot dog for lunch.

Reasons I am back to my omnivorous ways.

  1. I missed the taste, texture and smell of meat. Yes after 42 hours I had already missed meat!
  2. I was having to snack constantly because it takes a lot to become full off of plant based items.
  3. Preparing meals that are plant based require some pricey and tedious grocery shopping.

Things I gained:

  1. If you do have health problems and complications a plant-based diet is fasho something that will help alleviate or even take away those factors.
  2. I exercise, eat plenty vegetables and drink water. So in my eyes cutting out meat for the rest of my life is not something I will be doing. I just cant deprive myself that way.

 Imma close this out with this lil quote. 


Leave me some comments telling me your favorite meal that contains meat. 

LaShuna’s Favorite: Turkey Burger 🍔 

#vegan #ominvore #itsanoformedog #BeHumbleBlog

One Gotta Go: Liqour pt.1

Hey family,

We’re back at it again with another One Gotta Go! Last time we played we brought y’all one for music albums (One Gotta Go: Music Edition).  DAMN & Acid Rap were neck and neck probably because Acid Rap is a mixtape not album (my mistake).  

Take a look at the choices we have below which are some noteworthy liqour brands and let us know which you could live without in our comments and on twitter (@BeHumbleBlog).  
LaShuna 🌼

#BeHumbleBlog #Hennessy #JackDaniels # #JoseCuervo #CrowneRoyal #OneGottaGo


This topic will be more of my personal side and this topic which has been very near and dear to me lately is “loving those from a distance”. Why? Because I’m at the point of my life where I’m seriously getting rid of the dead weight. Whether that be relationships or situationships….. they gotta go.

I can say that it’s been quite liberating, but right now I’m focusing on me, myself and I.

Let me tell ya’ll why. After this summer, I will be a graduating senior in December and of course, my life is about to have some MAJOR changes. I can say that I’m not the least bit prepared, but I’m working on it! And with that being said, I had to remove some obstacles from my path.

So, the first step to this was….. cut ties with some people. Like completely. I don’t converse or hang out with the same group of people and it indeed is refreshing. You know how the saying goes, “birds of a feather flock together”? I had to leave that flock. Now, of course it wasn’t on some “f*ck them” type stuff….. but as I like to call it…. Loving them from a distance. I’m not the type of person to just drop people and not care for them after. Trust me. I want people to succeed from there on, like I really wish the best for them! Believe it or not, I’m a pretty genuine-hearted person no matter the circumstances.

Another thing I’m currently working on is a social media cleanse. Now, to be honest the only reason I’m still on there now is because I’m out of school and I be bored lol. BUT, once school starts back and I’m still working my two part-time jobs, baaabbyyyyy I’m focusing on graduation so I can get up outta there! But ya’ll know I gotta peek on there during homecoming of course! So yeah, I’m first probably gonna delete some people from there as well and then delete the apps from my phone. I’m Greek, I can handle being off social media for a little bit. *insert shade moon here*

What’s helped me during this time? God, first and foremost. Keeping faith in everything I do and knowing that he wouldn’t have wanted the same habits going on for me. And since then I can say that lately things have been going a lot smoother for me. Funny how God works right? Also, focusing on what I want and how imma get it. Simple. I try not to be stressed with it all (even though I totally am and I stay in denial) but me working hard is keeping me up. This past semester/year has been a whirlwind for me for various reasons and I realized that I just can’t deal with the same stuff! So I decided to take a step FORWARD and leave some people and habits alone. What’s also a big help is my support system that I just have to give a shout out to! Those people that constantly lift me up and check on me and just mean well, they are the people I decide to keep around because they’re what you call “good company”, like ya mama and ‘nem say.

So, with all of this being said, if you’re going through the same thing as me or you want to move forward in your life, say what you want to do and don’t hesitate… just do it like Nike! Live your life! *cues Golden by Jill Scott* I promise you, it’ll feel like a breath of fresh air. Hope I encouraged someone today. #message


With Love,

Meagan G.

Learning to love YOU ❤️

An open letter to anyone who needs it.

So, the crazy part about all of this is that you have to actually sit down and give time to yourself. Like I said crazy right? We spend a lot of time consumed with others and social media that we actually don’t have time for ourselves and when we do get time, we do things to keep from spending time with ourselves. Ask yourself this, -Are you really 100% comfortable with just being you? Completely you, with no add-ons, like 100% raw and uncut you? Are you comfortable with spending time with yourself and not others just to have time to get to know you? If your answer was no to any one of these questions, do you really love yourself? Don’t you know that you are beautifully and wonderfully made?

Now I know that we all struggle(d) with self-esteem and self-confidence issues, but are we letting those “flaws” ( or what others see as flaws,) get in the way of truly accepting who we are as a person? Have you found that appreciation and that value for yourself? If not, I want to share some different blogs and articles about self-love and truly becoming in love with YOU. It’s definitely a process and it does take some time, but getting to know you and learning to love you is the best thing you can do for yourself.

Here are some helpful guides:

“A Seven-Step Prescription for Self-Love” by Dr. Deborah Khoshaba

My Radical Realization About Self-Love

Tips for Building Self Esteem & Self Love!

Of course, no one can teach you how to love yourself, but I do hope that these tips and testimonies are helpful. A lot of our issues within ourselves are due to a lack of love and acceptance of who we truly are. If you love you, I promise what someone else has to say won’t even matter.

“If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?” – Ru Paul

I love you,

Brandi 😘

152 years of Juneteenth: the reason why we still celebrate & won’t ever stop. 

So as some of you may or may not know today IS Juneteenth! Now when I woke up today I realized it was Juneteenth but thanks to the lack of good quality Public Education I received I was never truly educated on what Juneteenth was or it’s history. This article is a present from me to you. Think of it as an eye opener or a cup of tea. I hope this provides much needed insight on this very ignored yet important  holiday. 

FAQs (Frequently Asked Questions)

1. What day do we celebrate Juneteenth?

Every year on the 19th of June. 

2. When did Juneteenth start? 

June 19th 1865 

3. What’s he main point of Juneteenth?

The Emancipation Proclamation was signed January 1, 1863 by President Lincoln.  The news of slavery ending wasn’t publicized to Texas until TWO AND A HALF YEARS LATER. Meaning, yes our ancestors where still enslaved for a whole 2 1/2 years. 

HISTORICAL RUN DOWN (Where the facts came from):

Juneteenth is the oldest known celebration commemorating the ending of slavery in the United States. Dating back to 1865, it was on June 19th that the Union soldiers, led by Major General Gordon Granger, landed at Galveston, Texas with news that the war had ended and that the enslaved were now free. Note that this was two and a half years after President Lincoln’s Emancipation Proclamation – which had become official January 1, 1863. The Emancipation Proclamation had little impact on the Texans due to the minimal number of Union troops to enforce the new Executive Order. However, with the surrender of General Lee in April of 1865, and the arrival of General Granger’s regiment, the forces were finally strong enough to influence and overcome the resistance.


Later attempts to explain this two and a half year delay in the receipt of this important news have yielded several versions that have been handed down through the years. Often told is the story of a messenger who was murdered on his way to Texas with the news of freedom. Another, is that the news was deliberately withheld by the enslavers to maintain the labor force on the plantations. And still another, is that federal troops actually waited for the slave owners to reap the benefits of one last cotton harvest before going to Texas to enforce the Emancipation Proclamation. All of which, or neither of these version could be true. Certainly, for some, President Lincoln’s authority over the rebellious states was in question For whatever the reasons, conditions in Texas remained status quo well beyond what was statutory.

The struggle:

If you’ve been tapping into your previous history knowledge while reading you’ll realize that the slaves were freed with no type of assistance to start their new lives as freed men and women. You see we were always at a disadvantage. Never on an even/ equal playing field. For years we have made a way out of no way and fought for our survival due to what we’ve been handed. Which is one reason why students around the United States are seeking compensation, reparation ,and reimbursement for the years our ethnicity struggled to even have a quality of life after our so called “freedom.”  The Buzz article on free tuition.

Juneteenth and it’s remembrance:

Since 1865 Juneteenth has had a varied existence throughout the United States. In the early years those who celebrated would dress up, gather in Galveston, barbecue ,praise & pray for a prosperous future while commemorating those lost to slavery. 

On January 1, 1980, Juneteenth became an official state holiday through the efforts of Al Edwards, an African American state legislator. The successful passage of this bill marked Juneteenth as the first emancipation celebration granted official state recognition. Edwards has since actively sought to spread the observance of Juneteenth all across America.

Juneteenth today, celebrates African American freedom and achievement, while encouraging continuous self-development and respect for all cultures. As it takes on a more national, symbolic and even global perspective, the events of 1865 in Texas are not forgotten, for all of the roots tie back to this fertile soil from which a national day of pride is growing.
This has been your girl Lashuna with a dose of black history. ✊🏾♥️ (Me on the left.)

Stop Saying YES to the SH*T that you HATE!

Stop saying YES to the S***t that you HATE

Saw this on a shirt and it stuck with me … I mean it stuck to me like beans and cornbread. Meatloaf and cabbage … it stuck to my bones, as well as my mind.

*Stop saying yes to the Shit that you hate*
A lot of times, we find ourselves approving and saying yes to things that we hate with a passion .
We continue to say yes to toxic men and women out of comfort. We continue to pay for things we can’t afford . We continue to say yes to situations that don’t benefit us.
*STOP saying YES to the shit that you HATE.

1.) Toxic Men /Women
STOP. When you continue to say yes to them, or do for them you make them thieves .. they steal your joy , your stability, your time and most of all YOUR PROGRESSION. Stop allowing these people to rob you because you’ve grown too comfortable to say no . Usually when we give these pieces of ourselves, we do it out of our love for potential . Stop saying yes to potential and stand up for the FACTS. We cover ourselves in their potential and then we find ourselves with the short end of the stick or no stick at all . We say yes to potential, and not actuality … We owe ourselves better. Start saying yes to your happiness .

*STOP saying YES to the shit that you HATE*

2.) Things we can’t afford .
If you hate being broke, you hate living from paycheck to paycheck … Stop saying yes to spending . We have to end the cycle of debt and it starts by saying NO . Stop going on vacation without money , stop spending money on food , stop buying things you can’t afford . We all have goals and it’s time we invest in them . If that means budgeting … Go for it . Don’t stay stagnant financially because of a lack of discipline . Start saying yes to your financial stability.

*STOP saying YES to the shit you HATE.

3.) Situations that don’t benefit us .
If it’s not going to affect you in 5 years , don’t let it affect you in 5 minutes. We spend so much time on things that don’t matter, as well as not spending enough time on the things that do . We’re upset for days on end, due to the actions or words of others because we get caught in the hype. We stay mad…but LISTEN it don’t matter if your big mad or little mad you’re only allowed 5 minutes of anger until it becomes a problem .
-Stop saying yes to others people problems . AINT NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT. I promise you once you make a problem yours… it takes over everything.
-Stop saying yes to procrastination. YO you got goals stop putting them in on the back burner because of some bs ! Grind and go get it !

In all, it’s time to give these situations the boot . It’s time to condition your mind for better and never forget. Stop saying YES to the Shit that you hate and start saying YES to progression .
Remember …EDGES & FACTS , taught you that !

xoxo Ang

What Are You Running From?

While I would consider myself to be a reasonably fit person, there is one form of exercise I just cannot stand, and it’s RUNNING. I have always considered it pointless to be hurrying in the direction of nothing in particular just for the sake of doing so, plus your girl has asthma so, LET. ME. LIVE. Needless to say, you won’t catch me at many marathons, because I do another type of running in life; and to be honest, you probably do it too.

I am a master of many things, and procrastination is one of them. Procrastination is one of the most dangerous and detrimental habits that we as young people can have because it leads to laziness, it isn’t fruitful, and it gives way to distractions. I can’t tell you how many of my problems would have been solved if I had just done what I was supposed to do in the first place. For sure, my room would be cleaner, my GPA would be higher, and my email inbox would be a lot emptier. We all love to joke on Twitter about waiting until the last minute to start things, and I am certainly no different. I have used every single excuse under the sun to put off things that I should be getting out of the way. In fact, I could write a book on it, but I’ll do it later.

Since I’m here to keep it all the way real, put your feelings in your back pocket and follow along with me.

If procrastination was a Bible character’s middle name, it would be my man Jonah. If you aren’t familiar with the story of Jonah, allow me to paraphrase the high points for you:

God told Jonah to go to a place called Nineveh, and Jonah wasn’t really feeling it, so he said “nah.” Instead Jonah hopped in a boat and headed in the opposite direction, God was like, “oh really?” and caused a storm. They threw Jonah off the boat, and my man ends up in his feelings in the belly of a fish. In a couple of days, the fish eventually spits him out in NINEVEH of all places. Then he ends up doing what God told him to do in the first place.

That’s basically the bulk of the story, or at least the part we are going to talk about. Because while procrastination may seem harmless now, you’re not just innocently wasting time scrolling on the gram. When you put off the things you have to, or are destined to do, you are extending your own hardships and putting God’s plan for you on hold. Imagine how productive you would be, if you did everything as quickly as you answer that 2am “You up?” text. (I can say that ‘cause I’m guilty too!) If we are being honest, procrastination is just you running in the direction of nothing in particular, wasting your own time because you aren’t ready to do what you have to do. It robs you of your time and energy and gives you back nothing in return.

It’s one thing to procrastinate on a school or work assignment, but it is a complete other thing to procrastinate on assignment you have from God. I’ve been there, so I can tell you, it wont get you anywhere. Procrastinating on something God is truly calling you to do is far from innocent; it is a conscious decision to choose something pointless over God and His promise, and it ain’t gonna work for long. Case and point, for weeks God has been telling me to write this down, not so much for you guys, but for myself. Instead, I ignored it and wrote “Summer Investments” because that was what I wanted to do, and I haven’t been able to sleep right since. So now, I’m up in the midnight hour, doing what I should’ve done in the first place, because the conviction just wouldn’t let me rest, and God won’t let you rest either.

Hear me when I tell you: God’s timing is impeccable and His plans for your life are perfect, but you have got to do your part. If you know your purpose, if you have a platform, if you have something that stirs your spirit and keeps you up at night, do more of that. Some of us are asking God for direction, while sitting in the belly of the fish. Why are you asking for more direction, if you can’t be trusted with the initial one? If you can’t be faithful with little, why would God put more on your plate? If you’re at a place where you feel like God isn’t telling you anything new, like you’ve been in this season for far too long, or like you’ve been praying and waiting but nothing is happening…Consider your initial assignment. Have you done your part or are you still scrolling past what God put in front of you?

– Candace

One Gotta Go: Music.1

Sooo idk if y’all like music as much as we Be Humble Bloggers do. But today, I’m coming atcha with some of my favorite albums from some of  the most recognized Rapper in the game. 

 “One Gotta Go” is a concept from Instagram (@BeHumbleBlog) it’s a lil game ,or conundrum if you will. Here’s how you play:

1. Look over the choices in the photo grid below. 

2. Choose ONE ☝🏾 album that you could live without. Meaning whichever album you choose will be completely removed from ever existing- so choose carefully kids. 

3. Comment below which one you chose that ‘Gotta Go’. 


So, it’s summer and of course we wanna be “summertime fine” for the szn. Curls poppin’ (or bundles for my weaved-up sistahs), melanin skin glowin’, highlight on the cheeks and don’t forget the lipgloss hunty. *ques Lil Mama’s “Lipgloss” in the background* But maybe you’re not sure where to start or even how to start. Don’t sweat it (in the worrying aspect of course), Meag got a few tips for you!


*disclaimer: all of my black sistahs are beautiful not matter what shape or size you are. From the skinny mini’s to my P.H.A.T. (Pretty Hot And Thick) girlz, you slay no matter what!*

*disclaimer 2: I know I mentioned the ladies in this post but fellas, feel free to take from this post also!*


Tip #1:

We hear all the time that the first thing to realize when on a healthier journey is that “it starts in the kitchen”. Absolutely. Believe it or not, you can not eat trash every day and then try to work it off and then expect to see results. Honestly, you’ve probably eaten more calories than you burned so then it will be twice as hard to knock them off. Now I’m not saying watch labels on everything you eat or don’t eat a good hamburger every once in a while because then, I’d be a hypocrite. What I’m saying is, you can eat those things but in MODERATION. Treat yourself! Hell, I do. I still eat Cane’s just about every week lol. But a great regimen that I love is *drumroll*….. MEAL PREPPING!…. and here’s why. Meal prepping helps in a few ways actually. Not only does it help you health wise but saves you some $$$ too. Think of it this way, you have made a healthy meal that you can look forward to for the week and not you don’t have to purchase a meal every day! Killin’ two birds with one stone. I recommend Pinterest for the best meal prep ideas!IMG_4000


Tip #2:

Next thing to realize is coming up with a good workout regimen. I do know that some people would prefer to hire a personal trainer or have a workout partner for whatever reason but even so, a regimen is still in order. However, if you’d prefer to workout on your own, its best to make up your routine and try to stick with it. You can switch it out whenever you like. How I came up with my regimen was through research and trying new things in the gym or even looking at other people in the gym. Literally, I may see someone on a machine doing something that I feel may help enhance my workout and say “bet” *added*. Me personally, with the exception that this past semester has kicked my ass, I usually work 3x a week. I have a leg day, arm day and ab day full of cardio and weight lifting and I end my workouts with 500 abs. Before and after I make sure to stretch, VERY IMPORTANT because you don’t want to pull anything. You’ll already be sore from the workout. As the saying goes, “no pain no gain”. So if you don’t feel sore after a workout, it means you didn’t work hard enough. If you don’t have access to a gym, there are PLENTY of apps where you can get many workouts from but my favorite is the Nike app.




Tip #3:

The last and most important tip, have CONFIDENCE, be PATIENT, and DON’T COMPARE YOUR JOURNEY TO ANYONE ELSES! I know that may have been 3 tips in one, but ya’ll get my point. You must remember that our bodies are forever evolving and that everyone’s journey is different. So just because your changes aren’t showing as fast as someone else’s don’t get discouraged. You’re on your way! You must be confident throughout your journey from beginning to forever. Start off with the mindset that no matter how you feel about your body, that you’re fine as wine boo! No matter what your aim is whether it’s weight loss, toning up, etc etc. Don’t get down and don’t allow anyone to get you down! My old high school track coach used to tell us “don’t stop until you can’t go anymore”. Think of it that way. Stay on that journey until you can’t anymore.



Hope this helps! For any questions or tips, please feel free to contact me. I’d love to help!


-Meagan G.


Don’t Trust That Bestfriend Shit

I’m sure we’ve all heard it said before, “don’t trust that bestfriend shit.” Now be warned: insecure, he can’t have no female friends, why you won’t put me on your snapchat ass females, THIS IS NOT FOR YOU. Although it’s few and far between, I’m a firm believer that there is a such thing as female and male friendships. It’s possible y’all. But that’s a story for another time. I’m here to give y’all some tips, with a side of tea 🐸. Hold on to your edges sis.

So let me start here. I am a very open minded individual. And even though I’ve been fucked over by the “she just my friend” one liner spoken by every true fuckboy of the world, I had, and still have, hope that males and females can be bestfriends.

With that being said, while this type of relationship is possible, it can be finessed and finagled into something completely different. EASY. I don’t think people understand, or are just not willing to accept, that you must have boundaries! Y’all, you can not do ALL the same “shit” with your male/female friend that you do with your same sex friend. It don’t work like that! And for the people that say you CAN. Y’all the main ones walking round with secret crushes on your bestie. Main ones jealous of your best friend’s girl, but just claim to be “overprotective.” Y’all the MAIN ONE’S tailoring all your “bestie” advice to your benefit! The gag is, y’all be knowing damn well you in love with your “bestfriend,” but walking round here like Heather Headley, and got a whole different relationship going on “in your mind.”

For all of you who have been personally victimized by this bestfriend shit, I understand. I too, was a victim of this cowardly act by two unsuspecting individuals. But, instead of hashing out all of the distasteful details, let me just give y’all a list of signs that your man or woman’s “bestfriend,” ain’t really they bestfriend.

1. If he tell you not to worry about her. BITCH WORRY. Worry for your life. And again, this is not for my pressed and distressed womenz who uptight about every single damn move her man make. But for my emotionally stable women, trust your women’s intuition. If you had a reason to worry, it’s not unsolicited. Don’t jump to conclusions, but trust your instinct. Men will try to sell you off as “crazy,” but sister you are not crazy, he’s just a manipulator. You gone be LOOKIN crazy once y’all over and she next in line.

2. If she always got a slick attitude when you come around him, don’t trust that bestfriend shit! Once upon a time, not long ago, I was in a situation where literally EVERY time I came around “him”, this females whole demeanor completely changed. The gag is, when he wasn’t around, she was kee keeing with me like we was besties.

Next thing I know, she was confessing how she was (and probably still is, God help her) in love with this man, but that “he’s confusing”…

…sister, what is confusing about a friendship?? Now I’m confused. I had to exit stage left on that note.

3. If they crossing boundaries and doing shit that couples do under the guise of friendship, you dare not trust it bitch. People will sit up here and cuddle, have movie night, cook for each other, and as long as they don’t kiss, they will peddle you the bullshit that is “she just my bestfriend” with a side of – if she made a move it woulda went down though. The way I look at it, if I see you as my bestfriend, I can not see you any other way. If I could see myself with you one day, that ain’t no friend, that’s a friend zone. I can’t make this up y’all. The same female that was claiming this guy was her bestfriend, later told me, verbatim “I don’t want to be just his friend. I genuinely love and care about him.” Classic sideline material. Thats cool and all sis but, what is GENUINE about lying to everybody (and most importantly, yourself) when you really just in the bleachers waiting for his ole lady to fumble. That’s not genuine sis, that’s fraudulent. A great woman once said – Pick a side, pick a side.

In closing, while I myself have been SHOOK by the levels of triflen and tragedy that can unfold from hetero-friendship, let it be noted that although it is not common, males and females can be bestfriends. As long as you understand the concept of BOUNDARIES, then you too, can succeed out here.

But as John Mayer would tell you, “Friends, lovers, or nothing. There can only be one.” Nothing in between. It’s just that simple!



Feeling ReJUNEvenated..


I woke up this morning and took a breath deeper than any breath I had taken in a very long time.

I, like many people I know right now, am going through storms. Experiencing the kind of rain that you don’t want to get out in… the kind that makes you want to sleep because it’s the perfect weather to do so. I agree. It’s easy to sleep through your storm, to ignore it, hoping that when you wake up it will be over and your world will be better because of it, but I want to challenge you get out in rain and let that water soak your roots and help you grow. Will it be uncomfortable? Maybe. But the truth is that water is a necessity of life and we NEED it to grow.

I’m a big fan of fresh starts, and to me the start of a new month feels a lot like the fresh start I’ve been looking for. There were some changes I needed to make, and I had to FORCE myself to make them. I changed my phone number yesterday, and got a LOT of mixed responses. My mama thought that I had a stalker, some people were supportive and a lot of people just asked me why. Part of me wanted to tell them all like Drake said “The hardest part about the f*ckin’ business is minding your own.” Then I realized that the moment I announced I got a new number I made it their business. So I decided to share:

I’ll be 23 in less than two weeks. I, again like many people I know right now, am full of potential. All I ever hear is how inserts positive compliment here I am. It had gotten to the point where I believe that people believed in me more than I believed in myself. I was too dependent on the hope and expectations of other people to pull me through a time in my life where I didn’t have hope, nor did I expect much of myself. Time after time I disappointed myself, but to the world I was doing just fine.

It was the consistent late night drunk texts to that guy I should have left alone a thousand times over. It was that once in a blue moon text from that guy who is trying to give my space in hopes that it would create a path that led me to him. It was the text from that ‘friend’ that only contacts me because I am a master at handing out the perfect advice that I can’t take for myself. It was that friend that only contacts you to promote a party or themselves without so much as a ‘hey, how are you”. It was the idea that the more people I was connected to with my personal number the more popular or desired I was. Getting a call from a restricted number that woke me up out of my sleep for the 4th night in the row was the icing on the cake.

So that’s why I changed my number. So that I could wake up today on the first of the month feeling rejuvenated. So that I could force myself to realize that the only person I NEED to be connected to is Jesus, and myself. My number isn’t the only thing I’ll be changing this month. But it’s the first one and boy has it left me feeling reJUNEvenated.

~Kristen Phantazia

New Zealand: Being Black In A Predominantly White Country.


Disclaimer:  For those who are reading this and aren’t Black please continue to read. I want you to be educated and get a slight glimpse into the world of being oppressed and discriminated against. 

Currently on my flight back to The States and I can honestly say I’m ready to be home. I miss my family, my state (Tx) ,and most of all I miss the connection I’m able to make with other Black People throughout each day…) The connection I’m referring to is when you see another black person and you give each other “the look.” The “sick and tired of the stuff we put up with” look or my recent favorite the “finally another person of African Decent” look. 

I recently was afforded the opportunity to travel to New Zealand for education, service ,and cultural enrichment. Myself and 12 other students traveled with my University Texas A&M University Commerce. 

Now there are two experiences that occurred during the trip that have shaped me more as a person. Now lean in because these three things aren’t your typical “I learned to be more inclusive and open to new things” post. 

This is my prospective and thoughts on traveling to a country with less than 1.2% of citizens that identify themselves as African Decent. Now the only way I know is to be is real so if at any point you get uncomfortable keep reading because we don’t change the world by being timid. 

Experience 1: Non Blacks using the word Nigga

So it’s Night number 8 and we students decided we’d just buy drinks for those 21 & up and play games. A bonding night if you will. 

So the night commences ,everyone is enjoying each other’s company ,and conversation. As we play a classic game of never have I ever (my fav) some of my dear colleagues are singing along to a song and decide they weren’t going to skip/bleep/pause over the word nigga. Yes, I’m for real. 

My mind immediately goes into fight or flight mode. But then I remember my location and the fact that I had been indulging in adult beverages. So I noted it in my “you got me messed up” memory and decide to bring it up when the whole group is together during a debrief so they (anyone who is not black or of African Descent) knows that the word is not valid for them to use, educate them on why ,and let them know it’s utterly disrespectful. 

So then about thirty minutes later myself and two of my Hispanic colleagues are talking about our family struggles. As the conversation continues they both use nigga more than once. Again, we were all tipsy or more so to me it wasn’t the time to address the matter in the way I wanted to. 




Are some reactions you may be experiencing. 

This was the first time anyone other than black had openly used the word nigga in my presence. And I was the only black person there. It was a slap in the face and it pierced straight to my soul. What was going through my mind you may ask?

  1. Why do they think it’s okay to say nigga?
  2. Do they understand what the word even means?
  3. Who the hell do they think they are? 
  4. Beat their a**. That’s all that’s left to do sis!
  5. Girl, you 17 hours away from home. Don’t be stupid.

I took that night to think and process what had just happened. I woke up and found the other black people on the trip and ran down the situation and asked them what they thought. 

“Umm no!”

“That’s not okay!”

“I know you lying!”

“So when we talking to the group?”

“Maybe they have a friend who is black that said it was okay.”

So later that day in our debrief (a time where the group comes together and talks about the past day or two) I spoke up and said, “I have heard some people saying nigga. It’s not okay to use that word  especially if you aren’t black because it expresses and infiltrates the power imbalance in our world. I’m not sure if you have a friend that allows you use it with them. Unfortunately, your friend doesn’t represent the whole black community so don’t say it around me” 

The room went completely silent and I don’t think anyone was breathing for like 3/4 seconds. 

So my advisor (who is black) asked the group, “so what are y’alls thoughts?” 

No one said anything at first and then someone commented:

White Girl: “I haven’t personally heard anyone say it.” 


Me: “Nah. Three people used it last night during the game.” (She tried it.)

Hispanic Girl: “I don’t use it because I’m not Black and I wouldn’t want anyone using words similar to that about my culture.”

Everyone: I agree. 

*The rules on using nigga can be found below in the photo. 

Before I move on I want the readers to understand one thing about communication. “How you present and say something is more important than what you are saying.” You see this conversation would’ve went left if I said “don’t say that sh*t! You ain’t black” or “so why have y’all been using the word nigga?” 

Being disrespectful back wouldn’t have helped. Including everyone by saying “y’all” is including those who weren’t using the word nigga. Being direct, upfront and respectful is the best way to educate and let these people know you not playing with them while also remaining professional.

Experience 2: My skin incriminates me across the globe, not just in the United States. 

So me and the same group of students (all White or Hispanic other than me) decided to go out to the club again. We go to Dakota’s – A Texas Country Club (yes in New Zealand. A whole 17 hours away!)

We get inside and all that is going through my head is:

“I know you lying!”

“Why the heck did I even come out?”

“Why are all these people staring at me”

Now let me give you some background.

There’s less than 1.2% of Blacks or people of African descent in New Zealand. Meaning out of 4 million people only 48,000 of those people are of African Descent. So in layman’s terms every 83 people you see you’ll find one person of African Descent. You can just imagine how out-of-place I was. 

So about 40 minutes pass and myself and two other girls in my group sat down to chill and a New Zealander of European Descent walks up to me. She goes, “Hey I left my purse next to you and I need to look for it.” So I scoot over and allowed her to dig through the coats that were on the booth. I kept telling myself, “You’re in New Zealand people here don’t racial profile like they do in the United States.” My thoughts were interrupted when her and her friend stood about three feet away whispering while looking at me and pointing. They saw me looking and then the friend came over and said, “I’m just gonna look for her purse real quick, she knows she left it here.” I rolled my eyes to myself trying to stay calm. They didn’t find the purse and ended up walking away to look elsewhere. My friend next to me (Hispanic) nudged me and said, “It’s crazy how people can be racist and discriminate in places other than the States; you’d never expect that. I nodded and said, “You’re right. It’s not surprising I just expected more.” Now the young ladies who thought I had the purse never heard my voice so I could have been any nationality to their knowledge. When they finally found the purse they never apologized which wasn’t expected. 

My dear brethren. 

  1.  I would have never known that other countries were similar to The States when it came to racial profiling if I never gained the courage and decided to travel aboard. Like the gentleman on the plane advised me, “You never know life outside your bubble (your country) until you travel elsewhere.” 
  2.  Don’t go into situations expecting the worse because not every non-black person is racist. Be open and allow people to show you who you are.
  3. Stand your ground! I could have brushed off the fact that my colleagues said nigga. I could have left them uneducated on the topic and how it made me feel. The person I am, the morals I stand for,and my outspokenness wouldn’t allow me to go without saying anything. 



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From your favorite Chocolate Chip ,

[keep yo heart; Stay trill]


#WOKE #Travel #NewZealand #DearWhitePeople #Texas #communication #BlackGirl #racialprofiling

Are you ‘Living Your Life Like It’s Golden’; According to God’s Purpose?

I’m holding on to my freedom,
Can’t take it from me,
I was born into it,
It comes naturally,
I’m strumming my own freedom,
Playing the God in me,
Representing His glory,
Hope He’s proud of me,

-excerpt from Golden by Jill Scott

Now, I want to take y’all to church for a little bit. Take ya bible apps and go to 2 Timothy 4:7-8 & 17-18. It reads, “I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith: Henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day: and not to me only, but unto all them also that love his appearing.” Moving to verse 17, “Notwithstanding the Lord stood with me, and strengthened me; that by me the preaching might be fully known, and that all the Gentiles might hear: and I was delivered out of the mouth of the lion. And the Lord shall deliver me from every evil work, and will preserve me unto his heavenly kingdom: to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen.”

So, let’s get to the business.

Have you ever asked yourself, “What am I doing with myself, my life and everything around me?” Or is it just me? Either way, I know that these thoughts have come up one time or another; if not, then they will. When asking yourself that question, also ask this one, “What is my purpose in life, and am I living it according to God’s will and His purpose?” Now I know what you’re thinking, “Isn’t my purpose and God’s purpose the same thing?” No baby, it’s not, and I can tell you why. Often times, our purpose is what WE want to do or what WE have planned. I know that we all have sat down and tried to write down our goals in life for the next 5 or 10 years, but have we sat down with the Lord to see what He wanted us to do? Have we had a conversation with our God to see what He had planned for us? For those of you that have, have you actually listened for the answer, or have you just prayed just so you will feel right about talking to God? We often times talk to Him just to talk, which is fine, but we don’t always talk to him to listen to Him and receive a response.

I can’t sit here and give you life advice and tell you how to live yours, but how can you walk around not knowing what your calling is? Are y’all really okay with walking around not knowing what your next steps are or how to get to them? Are you honestly okay with making your own plans and goals and nothing is falling through or going according to plan? Think about it, even in our daily relationships with people, are those relationships forced relationships or are they people who are genuinely supposed to be in your life? Let’s talk about our jobs, are we really happy there? Are we coming to work honestly glad that we are there and are we passionate about it? The main question is, DID WE TALK TO GOD ABOUT THIS BEFORE WE WALKED INTO THIS?

You’ve talked to God and listened to His word, now what? Now is the time that you have to put in that work. You have to know that God is going to set you on your way but He is also going to give you some learning objectives on the way. Do you think He’s going to lay it out for you without you learning on the way? I think not. Hence the “fought a good fight.” IN LIFE WE MUST LEARN THAT WE ARE GOING TO FACE SOME THINGS ALONG THE WAY. But God will always be there to make sure that we learn from it and that we live our lives like they are golden, according to His purpose for us. You’re going to be challenged. You’re going to be fighting. You’re going to face those hurdles. You are going to run across some folks who aren’t good for you. But guess what? YOU WILL MAKE IT. You will fight that good fight and you will make it through life. You will thank God for what He’s doing and what He’s going to do. Our God will show up and show out! Lean on Him and TRUST in Him. He will direct your path. DO NOT GET WEARY and QUIT. You are better than that. Yes, it is okay not to be okay and not know what to do, but guess what? He will pick you up and fight that fight with you.

Don’t you know that if you pray for something, God will honor that? All you have to do is ask and leave it to Him. He will show you what you need to live a Golden life. Now, here’s the tricky part… please be careful for what you pray for. Because if I tell you that God will honor that, and a test will come with it honey. You will begin to see things that you have never seen before and experienced before that may not come as you expected, but will have your cup overflowing.  You will be looking like the Mr. Krabs meme with all of those blessings/trails; confused.

I have said all of this just to say, lean on the Lord, He will direct your path and have you living a blessed and prosperous life…according to His will and His word.

Be Blessed and Remain Humble.



When are you Finally going to Graduat…*STFU*

wIhn erE yUUh fENelY GoeN Tuh gRadUete?!?

-A Letter to the Delayed but not Denied

It’s that time, Graduation season. College students are posting #Tbt pictures from 2 weeks ago and those poor high school seniors are eagerly dancing across the stage into a world they aren’t close to being  ready for…and then there’s us. We’re in that “close but not close enough” section. How many of you have had to go home for holidays and have your nosey auntie say “I feel like you been in school forever, you not ready to graduate?”, or even worse having people around campus say “Oh, I thought you was getting out of here this semester”, and Every time you have to throw on a smile and through your teeth give a “no..not yet”. Well this one is for you!

Now let me be clear, THIS IS NOT A BITTER POST! I would never take away from someone making the amazing accomplishment of getting a Degree in any way. I personally try to catch every ceremony that I can and go out the way to personally congratulate them with a sincere smile. Honestly, Truly! Because I know when it’s FINALLY my time I want the same in return. It may be tough for some but sitting back and watching someone progress their life with Envy in your Heart will absolutely Block your Blessings!

The important thing to remember, my delayed but not denied Brothers and Sister, is to never compare your time in school to another. If you finish in 4 years Great, if you take 5 year Cool, enjoy what I call your “Victory Lap”. If you’re on your 6th or 7th year or even if you are someone that decided to come back and finish getting a degree, DO YOU ! I’m a 23 year old Super Senior and at this point when I get a cute comment about still being in school my only answer is “My God’s got a plan, I’m not questioning it anymore”.

A wise and old Instagram post once said “Delayed graduation in college is never shameful. College is not a race on who finishes first.What is important is that you didn’t give up on your quest for a diploma. No one is too old to obtain a dream. You just need to keep going and defy the odds.”

THIS is to let you know you are not alone, THIS is to remind you that your time is coming, THIS is the time where we hold our heads up, push aside our pride and march on our time. Chance the Rapper said it best in his song “All my days, I prayed and prayed and now I see the finish line, I’m Gonna finish mine YE-AH! ”

Remember, the Humble don’t Crumble


-Nick S.

Your Grass Might Be Greener….

I’m going to keep this one brief people. Quick question. Do you ever find yourself looking at one of your friends, coworkers, or family members life/journey and comparing it to yours? No lie, we’ve all (even myself) have at one point in time looked at someone else’s life and form a sense of envy or jealously towards the situation. Well, I am here to tell you to STOP DOING THAT.

*Disclaimer: I can’t actually tell you what to do, this is only a suggestion*

To piggy back a little off my last post entitled “Let Go and Let God…Seriously“,  never find yourself in a situation where you are comparing your life/journey you are currently on to another persons life/journey. By comparing, you are losing focus on the things going on in your life at the moment. You are being blinded by other peoples blessings, and in fact, you are missing out and have ultimately became oblivious to the blessings right in front of your face. You never know what the next person is going through. Sometimes things are shifting in people lives because they actually need change. Blessings are TIMED PERFECTLY. Don’t think just because you haven’t “received” your blessing or breakthrough yet, that it is not coming. F- A- I- T- H it til’ you make it (and work, grind, and pray of course). You are better off than what you think you are. Even on your worse day, it still can be worse. Be thankful for the life you have and always remember, you will be fine.

You may feel like your life is in shambles or in a stagnant state, but I guarantee you, there are many people that WISH they can live the life you are living. So stop worrying about if the grass is greener on the other side, because Your Grass Might Be Greener.

I’ll leave you guys with this scripture; Galatians 1:10:

“For do I now persuade men, or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I still pleased men, I would not be a bond servant of Christ.”

Lastly, always remember….Bless Up and Be Humble.

-Trevon O.

Failure – Life’s Necessary Evil.

Failure. It sounds scary right? And the older we get, the more permanent failure sounds. But what if I told you failure was life’s necessary evil? That’s right, not only is failure inevitable but its also necessary. Will we ever look forward to failure? Probably not. But, let me clue you in to this secret and show you why failure can be your key to success. Keep up.

Last summer I interned at RetailMeNot Inc. where I was given the opportunity to work amongst many bright individuals and gain a real world experience on how products are built. For those not business savy, stay with me, I’m going somewhere. One of the first books my mentor provided me with was called The Lean Startup. While this book, ultimately, is about startups and how to prevent failure, the mantra they use in this book can be applied to real and everyday life.

In the business world, and in life, failure comes with a price. Whether it’s money or time, failure is not free! But, again, failure is necessary. The most successful businesses – and people – can attest to this. Eric Ryes calls it “validated learning.” In context, this phrase basically entails that while failure is inherent, perceiving and treating these “failures” as validated learning instead of mistakes will give you the tools you need to quickly and efficiently continue towards your goal.

Let me bring it closer to home. You know that class you failed freshmen year in college? No? Ok, how about that ex. You know, the one that you shouldn’t have gave one minute but you ended up giving them one year? (or three). Okay, cool. Let me ask you this, whats worse than breaking up with your man or woman of 10 years when you found out he/she was cheating the whole time?

Breaking up with your man or woman of 10 years when you KNEW he/she was cheating the whole time.

The difference you ask? The difference is, you had the chance to gain validated learning from your experience, but instead you settled until you couldn’t settle no more. The difference is, you knew better but you didn’t do better. The difference is, that situation was completely, unnecessary. The only thing worse than not being given an opportunity is a missed opportunity.

Failure is an opportunity. 

Sis, you may have gave that man more time than he deserved, but this time around, you know yourself and you know your worth. And brother, you may have flunked that class freshmen year, but at least you’re not about to invest another three years into a subject you have no interest in. I think George Bush put it best . . .

“There’s an old saying in Tennessee – I know it’s in Texas, probably in Tennessee – that says, fool me once, shame on – shame on you. Fool me – you can’t get fooled again. ”

Time is something you’ll never be able to get back. Don’t wait until you get older to start being appreciative. Those bitter oldheads that’s always complaining? Their not mad because of the things they did do, their mad because of the things they DIDN’T do. Whatever it is that you are afraid of failing at, go do that! Today. In the words of my mama, “the worst they can tell you is no.”

So whether you sink or swim, my advice to you is to please, just try! Failure sucks, but it’s a necessary evil. Don’t let your pride keep you from accepting defeat and moving on to something better. And don’t let fear keep you from ever trying in the first place. Just be humble. And fail as much and as fast as you can so you can get busy succeeding already.




Sex With Just One Person?? Forever, Forever Ever, Ever Ever? #Marriage

Real quick. Go ahead and ask your boyfriend/girlfriend (assuming your between the ages of 20-26) would they be fine with sexing you for the next 30-40 years. (Don’t really ask unless your ready for the answer whether it’s good or bad!). Sadly this topic has actually made some men(and women) fold from premarital thinking. 

You may ask yourself why did I only say 30-40 years for someone in their 20’s…cause I’m just keeping it real. I HIGHLY DOUBT people out here are trying to have that old “saggin baggin…watch ya step cause my nuts and your titties draggin” sex after 60 years old. That’s just my opinion.

So, seriously, why is the idea of sex with one person so scary??? People start to think about all the things that they THINK they will be losing but fail to see what all you would gain(granted that the person is the right one for you and it wasn’t rushed into).

What is it fellas? Your worried about not getting a chance to smash ole keisha and her friend with the fat ass?

What is it ladies? Are you worried about if he is the one? What if you found the one but that savage n@gga Jay, who started as a D appointment that got ya hooked, come back in the picture? My female friends all had that one “n@gga” that they couldn’t let go of cause the sex was good. Had all they behinds thinking they were in “love” but really in lust lordt. He doing them wrong but they still stay around lordt(wipes forehead). Don’t let me start preaching(not really).

I can only speak from my situation though. So about myself and why I chose this topic…I am 24 and my wife is 26. WE ARE YOUNG FAM lol. We just recently got married on March 18th, 2017. My wife and I have dated on and off for almost 8 years. The off time was us figuring things out each time. We both can say that we have experienced all that we had wanted to experience before getting married. Did the thought of having sex with only her for the rest of my life bother me?

HELL NO. We have dated this long yet when she throw it back, I still catch it happily as if I just started getting it. Sex with her never got old. Yeah, we may have to switch it up and etc. but that is expected. Hell, the other night my wife surprised me with candles and lingerie. When I tell y’all that I got in that thang like I never had it before lol. Also, I make sure she tap out EVERY TIME (it’s a mandatory good husband trait). I love it. My own personal freak. So, no, I don’t regret a thing and I don’t see myself thinking differently either. We get to grow together which means we get to try it in so many more places and more positions that it shouldn’t ever get dull. I’m not saying we sex every single night. Sorry guys, it has to slow down sometimes but best believe if my wife is not in the mood(tired,etc). I try not to bother her if that is the case, but she most likely will still snatch my soul before going to bed. I tell her it’s ok but she tells me it’s ok and won’t take no for an answer if she knows that I am really horny. My wife is the best and it’s never one sided. Whatever she wants, she gets! She just makes sure her husband is satisfied and I do the same back. It’s more than just sex…it’s deeper. The comments that are said during, the sexy looks, that caramel skin….you telling me that I am blessed to have this forever?

“Issa yeah for me dawg”. 

Of course our marriage is more than just sex..this is just the topic in which I’m writing. So yes, I can have sex with just one person forever cause I get so much more attached. 

This is a very debatable topic. And maybe your just not done hoe’ing yet and that is ok. Just make sure you got all of that out of your system and your ready before you say “I do”. Some of y’all may only see the big “what I’m losing” sacrifice but soon maybe you will see the big blessing from it. 
Respond with your opinions and let me know how you view this topic.

-Paul H.

“Mask Off “aka Bonnet Off ?

Listen Shugas ,

This is something that I’ve struggled with for quite some time …
When is the right time to let your man see you in your bonnet? When is it okay to let your soul glo and let him see the real you ?
Shooooot, i’m still trying to find the answers myself, but I’ve come up with some different things.

As Black Women , we find ourselves fully dedicated to our beauty regiment . From sunrise to sundown we pride ourselves on various oils , hair wraps , moisturizers, and leave in conditioners. Wheather you are a 4C natural , or a connoisseur of relaxed inches we all have something that unites as a one..

YOU GUESSED IT ? 🗣Our Bonnets !

In the past years, bonnets have become more and more fashionable. Bonnets come in many colors and patterns… HOWEVER they all come in the same Mario Brothers, little mushroom shape and ain’t nothing too sexy about that. Men across the states have complained about this night time look and women have become stressed on wheather to sacrifice their edges for the sake of sexy or slowly ease their partners into what I call “bonnet appreciation “.

Before I begin, I want it to be noted that, in no way shape or form do you need to sacrifice your edges for the sake of sexy. Their are ways to get around this, and that brings me back to my initial question;

When is the right time to let your partner see you in your bonnet ?

3 Steps to Bonnet Appreciation .

(In the beginning … )

1.) When in doubt SILK PILLOW IT OUT.
You may not feel comfortable wearing your bonnet in the beginning (Month 1) and that’s okay! What I’ve found to be easy and stylish is the silk pillow . My silk pillow goes everywhere with me , whenever their is a possible case of me going to sleep . It’s light and durable and it allows your hair to still retain its moisture .

(She a bad thing … That’s my baby !)

2.) Silk Scarves are FRIENDS use them !
At this point your manz knows the importance of your edges … you’ve showed him the real you, and slowly but surely he doesn’t mind . Don’t be afraid to put your scarf on and lay that eco-styler flat . You’re probably in month three and four and by this time he’s seen you without eyebrows and highlight and that’s okay !

(Show me something NATURALLLLL)

3.) This is the step you can do whenever you are comfortable. At this point you are wearing your bonnet to bed. Your man ain’t complaining , and you sleep knowing in your mind your man is all the way there . This is my favorite step because I can finally tell you this …
“If he CANT accept you in your bonnet , don’t ALLOW him to appreciate you outside of your bonnet.”

Now Remember ,

Edges and Facts taught you that !


Summer Investments

I don’t know if any of you are like me, but I happen to be a sucker for new beginnings. Starting new journals, planning things out for the week, and getting organized are some of my favorite things to do.  While many people hail the New Year as the best time for fresh starts and increased focus, summer has always been one of my favorite times to step back, take some time, and get real about what is going on in my life. This also happens to be the perfect time to take a look at how your year has been going so far, make some decisions where they need to be made, and make some strategic investments in yourself and in your future. That being said, I’m going to give y’all 10 things to do this summer to make the best investments possible.

Get Ahead

As a planner by nature, there is nothing I love more than getting a head start on things for the upcoming semester. Since I’m usually really busy when school is in session, I like to start planning my trips, upcoming events, and professional moves for the coming months. I usually start off by using a monthly calendar just to get everything in one place. This approach will not only make you feel more organized, it will also help you identify any potential time conflicts in your schedule. One of the best feelings out there is planning how you’ll be spending your time wisely. See the link below for some of my favorite printable calendars. (Sorry guys, they’re girly)

Printable Link: http://elizaellis.blogspot.com.au/2016/03/free-printable-irma-weekly-planners.html

Manage Your Influences

Managing your influences can mean different things to all of us. For me, managing my influences involves getting really critical of what I’m spending my time looking at on social media and television, what I’m listening to, and who I’m listening to. Now that you have a little free time, summer is the perfect time to go on an unfollowing spree, stop binge watching trash TV, and do something constructive. During the summer months I like to trade my playlists for podcasts and get myself out of the house.

If you have a mentor, this is an awesome time to pick their brain about things you could be doing to better yourself. My mentor is the best at suggesting new books for me to read and topics for me to explore (as long as I’m prepared to answer a few questions about what I learned).

Just take some time to protect your space and be mindful of what you’re allowing to influence you.

Podcast Suggestions: The Read, Serial, Slate Presents: Lexicon Valley, Rich Friend: The Elevated Conversation, Heart + Hustle, and Elevation Church

Practice Self Love

This might be my favorite one on the list, mainly because I have to constantly remind myself to do this one. One of the best things about summer is that there is always something to do, but sometimes I can get so caught up in saying yes to others, that I forget to say yes to myself. For me, practicing self love can be anything from a long bubble bath to scheduling a massage at my favorite spa, and everything in between. Loving on yourself does not always have to be extravagant, but prepare to be amazed at how much better you feel when you start to intentionally make time for YOU.

Adjust Your Focus

If the beginning of 2017 did a number on you, (faint not!) there is still hope! Sometimes we can get so caught up in all that’s going on around us that we forget to make time for what really matters. I’m sure this happens to everyone… you get busy just trying to get it all done, and you start to let some other things slip. Summertime is the primetime for prioritizing and shifting your focus back to what really matters to you.

Get Healthy

This is always a difficult one for me, because no one wants to spend the summer hiding out in the gym, drinking protein shakes, or not liking the way they look. So instead, I’ll say get healthy instead of get fit! I urge you to be realistic, set attainable goals, get an accountability partner, and cultivate discipline where you need it. Whatever healthy looks like for you physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually, make that a priority in the coming months.

Remember, getting healthy doesn’t have to be all about how you look, ‘cause in the words of Black Twitter, “Summer gon’ get whatever body I give it.”

Nurture Personal Relationships

Let me be honest y’all. When I am busy, I can become a distant friend, partner, and even daughter. I can be downright terrible at texting, and sometimes email becomes the best way to reach me, and living like this is EXHAUSTING. When I have extra time (mainly during the summer) I make it a point to visit my out-of-state friends, have more brunches, and make face-to-face interactions a priority. We all know relationships take some real work, so take some time to invest in the ones that matter most to you.

Read, and read some more

If you can’t tell by now, I ALWAYS have a good book somewhere near me! Since I’m usually crazy busy when school is in session, summer is my favorite time to find things to read for pleasure. I love a healthy mix of books that will teach me something, fiction, and autobiographies. Grab a good book and hide out in your favorite coffee shop, you wont regret it!

My Summer Reading List:

The Awkward Thoughts of W. Kamau Bell

Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert

Why Not Me? by Mindy Kaling

Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? by Mindy Kaling

This Is Just My Face, Try Not to Stare by Gabourey Sidibe

Write, and write some more 

Summer is my favorite time to start a new journal and get obsessive about writing things down. Pen and paper is the perfect judgement-free zone for me to think things through, be brutally honest, and (you guessed it) plan things out. Even if it’s just a line a day, start writing down your thoughts and see how easy it can be! One of the newest trends in journaling is listing, and I will admit, I’m OBSESSED. It’s so easy and fun to do.

My favorite is The 52 Lists Project: A Year of Weekly Journaling Inspiration. You can find it at my favorite place, Barnes & Nobles! Give it a try!


Hands down, this is my favorite topic on the list, because I am rarely ever home! I am firm believer in impromptu road trips and taking the long back roads (in the daylight of course). While some summer travel plans require more planning than others, there are plenty of places you can go that are just a couple of hours away! A quick Google search should bring up plenty of things to do in your area, or at least an hour or so away. Get up a little earlier on Saturdays and discover your next adventure! Now I love driving, so some of my day trips are a good minute away, but they are definitely worth it, and the memories made are priceless.

My Favorite Day Trips:

Birmingham, AL

New Orleans, LA

Nashville, TN

Tunica Hills, LA

Gulf Shores, AL

Invest (for real) 

Listen to me on this one. I know better than anyone else that it is EASY to blow money during the summer time. Do your future self a favor; spend less, invest more. Read about money management or sit down with a financial advisor, but be sure to take yourself and your finances seriously, regardless of how much money you do (or don’t) have.


I hope you find this list helpful and develop some new hobbies on the way. If you have anymore ideas, drop them in the comments! Just remember to be HUMBLE during your glow up this summer.

– Candace

Ahhh sh*t! You’re getting married?

Well first, congratulations! Secondly, hold on for this roller coaster called marriage! Me and my Husband Paul got married March 18th, 2017! Our ceremony was a equal mix between beautiful and lit. As for the reception we incorporated class and ratchet in the most elegant way. The Best day of my life! I honestly thought I knew what I was getting into. I’m shook, honestly! People tell you the first year of marriage is the hardest. But for me the first month was a damn doozy! Coming into marriage I would do a few things differently and do them in a more timely fashion.

First, I wouldn’t rush the planning process! My then fiancé had just graduated college and I mean JUST graduated! (He proposed the day he graduated!) Bam just like that, I already had colors, dresses, locations, and music picked out! Low key, my wedding was already planned. (Shout out to that Pinterest wedding board!) My fiancé had one more thing to add to his plate with the planning of our wedding. I know us ladies get excited and are ready to start planning, but hold on trap, don’t be so quick to rush it! Once your engagement take a few weeks to enjoy it!

Secondly, I would move in together a YEAR before marriage. Yes I know that’s an easy way to catch a bumb, but I honestly believe if me and my husband lived together at-least 6 months in advance we both wouldn’t be so easily annoyed. He hates that I eat so fast, and I hate that he hangs his towel over the shower curtain. A lot of things will change other than your last name. So learning how your future husband/Wife lives EVERYDAY before you wed. That’s really a major key!

Finally, getting married WILL NOT fix any issues in your relationship! (SAY IT AGAIN FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK! 🗣) Go to marriage counseling and work out any issues you have first! We learned SOOOOOO much with marriage counseling! We learned that we needed to have a lot of conversation and that it’s ok to not have it all figured out. Sit and talk about your 5/10 year goals, if you want kids, what his/her religious beliefs are and so on. I honestly believe it will finalize your decision to marry your dream man/women or allow you to see that you are a wedding dress close to marrying a f*ck boy/Gold digger.

With all that being said enjoy being young and in love! No need to rush the planning, the family, and the stress that will come along with it! Young black love is beautiful! So bask in the moment of being engaged and take every day one day at a time! Always remember to keep God first, love unconditionally, and enjoy the love that will only continue to grow! ❤️


I think I can. . . I think I can . . I know I can.

Today I’m feeling like a Maze and Frankie Beverly song

Okay blog time.

Ever had an idea, that you convinced yourself wouldn’t work?

Ever told yourself you weren’t good enough?

Ever felt like that cute girl or guy would never reply to your DM?

As I sit and wonder about the things that stop us from getting past ourselves. There is one resounding notion that I can’t shake. The notions that fear in its rawest state keep us from taking monumental steps. Fear breeds this ideal in our minds that we’re not good enough. That our brain babies would never mature, that our businesses will never rise or that he or she would never take us seriously.

What is fear?  Fear is the distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc;  whether that threat is real or imagined; the feeling/condition of being afraid “

The question is how do we start to take ownership of our fear, and expose, reveal, and remove the feelings it gives us. Ask yourself these questions.

  1. Is the fear grounded in real threats or unfounded ideas of threats?
  2. Is my fear holding me back from a possibly great opportunity?
  3. Why am I scared?
  4. Does my fear outweigh the rewards if I step out and try?

Every time you feel fear replace it with characteristics like bravery, ease, confidence, assurance, calmness, comfort, love.  Go talk to him/her. Start that billion dollar company. Travel to the place you’ve always wanted to go.

It is extremely important that we as informed individuals, with great ideas, and goals start to take action and control of our own lives; that we not live in fear of the unknown.  We must step out beyond ourselves and find ourselves ultimately seeing God in the very fabric of our being.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequatebut that we are powerful beyond measure” – Marianne Williamson

-Ralph St. Vincent Bradley

Should Your Man Pay For Everything?


So, I want to discuss a certain topic….

Ya’ll know we all stay on Instagram and Twitter and through all the likes and threads there’s always some reoccurring topic that turns into a huge debate so I want to ask ya’ll…..

Should your man pay for everything?

I know this is a very broad topic and may be on a wide spectrum of things but this can be from dates to as far as rent (depending upon the seriousness of the relationship).  My answer?

Issa no.

Now, before yall hound me, let me tell you why.

I’ve always seen a relationship as 50/50…. Not 70/30 or 60/40… but 50/50. I say this because in a relationship you have to be fair to not only yourselves, but also your significant other. Ladies, I understand that there are some guys who want to take care of everything because as a man that is the role he plays but we gotta play our part too! You should want to help your man or even spoil him. Men, you should want us to help or spoil you! *sings* “Let me cater to you…. Cause baby this is your day…” Imma let yall in on a lil secret….. *whispers* he may say he doesn’t want you to do nothing but he’s lying sis. He will appreciate you so much more. A few weeks back I saw a Facebook video about splitting the rent with your partner and the guy making it seemed like a very sweet guy who is willing to do anything for his boo. He was talking about he doesn’t want his girl to do anything, he’ll handle everything. That’s great and all but I’m sure he’d love to not handle everything… at least every once in a while ya know? Think as if you were in his shoes, would you want to handle every single thing every time when you have someone who can help in some way? Don’t lie to yourself. Now I know what you’re thinking… “Well Meagan, what if it’s the woman doing everything?!” Trust me, I hear you. Guys like a lil sugamama too. Same rules apply to him too! Speaking amongst the other ClassMeetsUrban crew, a few of the guys explained that even if the man wanted to handle the rent aspect, that the woman should be willing to at least help with bills, food, etc. Be willing to contribute somewhere, man OR woman. At the end of the day, help each other. That’s what you do in relationships. And while doing so remember this…..

Be Humble.

-Meagan G.

Let Go & Let God….Seriously

When deciding on what my first post would be, it was quite simple. Recently I came to conclusion, in order to get where you want to be in life, you have to change certain aspects of your life. You can’t move on to the next chapter in your life still living the same way you were in your previous chapter. Now I have always been religious, but I felt the urge to really change this aspect of my life and get closer to God for some reason. Felt like it was necessary.  

Every single person wants that perfect story book life. A life with no worries, no stress; a life where everything is just easy. Sadly that is not the case. In life, you will go through many things and experience different situations. Believe me when I say this, IT’S OK.

Once you realize you can’t do it on your own, turn to God and I promise you life will be so much easier. Your days will better and you will learn to TRUST THE PROCESS. People have to realize, there is beauty in every struggle. With struggle comes growth, perseverance, faith increase, and lessons learned. It is all apart of Gods plan for you. The ideal life you pray for is still nothing compared to the life God has destined for you. Always, Always keep the faith. Feeling uncomfortable in life, stagnant, seeing others succeed and you feel like your not progressing at all? Change that mindset and realize that you are being molded and cultivated for that next step in your life. Never compare your journey to others because Gods plan is different for everyone and there is no set time frame. Nothing in life comes easy and God is probably making you wait for a reason. I guarantee you, when that blessing does arrive, it is more than what you had anticipated. With all that being said, a simple way to put it is to just, PRAY.

P- Praise God. Thank him for EVERYTHING. The good, the bad, the trails and tribulations, the lessons, etc. Anything that God has done, is currently doing, and has yet to do, praise him for those things.

R – Repent. Confess those sins, ask for forgiveness, and repent. Our God is a healing and forgiving one. 

A- Ask. Talk to God and ask for those things you want to see come to fruition. No request is too big or too small.

Y – Yield. Yield everything to God. Relinquish everything that is on your mind, heart and soul.

I’ll leave you guys with my favorite scripture. Proverbs 3:5-6. It reads:

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding;  In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.” 

Lastly, always remember….Bless Up and Be Humble.

-Trevon O.

Chile… Let’s Be Real

The following question is for my ladies, and the men who like the mens… 

Do y’all get upset when another wo(man) speaks to your man?

Sisters, lets be real. Some of us get a smidge upset when our man (whether he knows he’s our man or not,) speaks to another wo(man), ESPECIALLY if we don’t know them.

A while ago, I was in the store, doing me, and ran into an old college friend. (Side note: we were cool wayy before he met ole girl.) Anyway, I waved, because 1) I’m in my shopping zone and I really wasn’t tryna stop and talk, and 2) I know some how some women can be about someone speaking to their boo. So moving on, he proceeds to come over and speak, hug and ask how I’ve been and such. Y’all, why could she not leave that isle? Why did she have to stand there and wait on him? Now sis, “I don’t want your maannnnn…” Y’all know the rest (Thanks Missy.) In my head, I was like “ma’am, its not that serious *rolls eyes*.” So sisters/Brothers, I have some ‘Speaking to Someone Else’s Man Rules’:

  1. Speak to her/him first (Sister to Sister respect)*
  2. If you and him have to hug, do a side church hug and introduce yourself to her/him so you’ll come off less threatening *
  3. If he just has to talk to you, make it known that you’re pressed for time and you will catch up with him later, so s(he) won’t be giving you that look. *

* Those rules won’t work every time and each encounter will be different. I know what y’all are thinking, “Why should I care about some other heffa and her feelings?” or “Brandi, I can care less about how he sees me, I’m just minding my business and speaking to my homeboy!”  I know, I know… ugh.

Ladies/Brothas, we gotta stop getting mad when other folks speak  just because we feel a threat approaching. He’s with you for a reason beloved, embrace that. If he disrespects you in front another person, let his ass know. (EYE am not telling y’all to let that MAN-GO cause y’all will not be blaming me for ruining your relationship chile.)

Let me know what y’all think about this. Email me your thoughts and feelings (nelson.brandi11@yahoo.com) or leave a comment below.

As always, Be Humble.

-Brandi N.

Class Meets Urban.

“If a man does not have the sauce, then he is lost. But the same man can be lost in the sauce.”

-Gucci Mane

A lot of times we find ourselves lost in the sauce of life so …WE ( Class meets Urban) decided to make a blog stemming from 16 different perspectives , from 5 different states, and an array of life experience . We hope our thoughts strengthen your beliefs , engulf your thought processes and help you figure out life n’sh*t.

We are Class Meets Urban and this is Be Humble.